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Got big goals? ask yourself, how is success going to feel?

November 13, 2018

A thought I’m pondering today – describe the feeling of success?

Some of my best thinking comes in obscure places. Commonly, there will be no relationship between the thought and the context of thinking it. 

This is perhaps the most wonderful thing about inspiration, you have to be open to to receiving it 24/7.

You never know when it might strike. 

As I washed the dishes this evening, inspiration for this post came over me. This small phrase stood out –

The feeling of success.

We can all agree that in reaching the goal, something we’ve dreamed of achieving for months possibly even years – the success is externalised, it can be measured by time, money, possessions or even your social media following. 

Conventionally, this is how we perceive being successful – the attainment or achievement of something. It’s wonderful and exhilarating when we do, but it’s not the full story. 

Some might argue, success is entirely subjective – what you believe is successful may not be my measure of success, but that’s another post for another day. I’m simply talking about the common view of society.  

Rewind five years ago, I had an inkling that something wasn’t right with the career path I was on.

At the same time, I happened to be very attracted to the work of Danielle La Porte. She created a simple yet very innovative approach to setting goals through her book The Desire Map. 

What she observed in months of research and in her own life, was a lack of connection for many between reaching success and feeling really incredible when you do. 

Her work attempts to close the gap. 

Through doing her Desire Map process, at least once a year, I soon learned that success can be both felt inside and seen outside.

I’d go as far as saying that the feeling of success, is more important to get clarity on that the actual goal. 

Why is this so?

If our feelings drive our actions, then surely how we want to feel will become our guidepost.

We take actions towards our goal that we know will have us feel a certain way.

We’ll set goals because we know that external “thing” – the thing we can quantify (money, weight, car, travel, house…), we know deep down that it feels really good to have. 

Our goals have a deeper connection, and a fullness to them.

Knowing this, tell me – how do you want success to feel?   

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    The secret to managing your mind – lessons from Brooke Castillo

    November 8, 2018

    Brooke Castillo is like a fairy godmother to me. 

    She is also one of my favourite teachers. Through her deep curiosity, she teaches us about our mind, its inner workings and how our thinking affects our reality. Our reality – is both how we see the world and others, but also what we make it to be through our actions.  

    Every week, on a Thursday afternoon, her words find their way into my ears. Over the last year, she’s taught me many things about my mind. 

    The point to all of her words, is that she asks me to value my mind – which if understood will create the reality we truly desire.

    Like going to the gym, a healthy mind requires attention too. We need to flex the self-awareness muscle.  

    Subtle yet clever, our mind loves a good story. Like a childhood fairytale, they play on repeat, they create parts of our personality and our reality. 

    Once we get wind of this, we become the observer. Not the over-analyser but the observer of our thoughts. We simply notice what actions we take as a result of certain thinking, of stories we tell ourselves. 

    Meditation is an ideal gym for this practice. 

    It will take some time to notice the stories, but once we do, we see the power of them. 

    The next step is perhaps the most critical. 

    When we notice what we tell ourselves (or have been subtly whispering for some time) we have a choice. 

    Our adult mind will try to tell us we don’t (have a choice), but we do.

    In that moment, we can choose the story that continues to create this reality (is it happily ever after?) or a new one. 

    We can tell ourselves – “I am afraid, but this time I’m going to do it anyway”

    The end. 

    We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark.

    The real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.

    ~ Plato

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      Four little secrets to making bold changes

      November 7, 2018

      Things are changing around here. 

      This year, has been a year of leaning in to change, building more resilience and making 5 year visions and goals a reality. 

      Some people might call it manifesting, I like to think it is the result of taking small actions over and over.

      Actions that certainly aren’t devoid of setbacks. 

      Even when something might feel like a setback, we do our best to move through it. 

      To find the opportunity in it, initiate plan B, get creative with our thinking or simply ask for help, rather than let the goal fade.  

      So when that thing you want finally becomes a reality – it is exhilaratingly scary or scarily exhilarating.  

      As I write this, I’ll be turning 36 in just a few weeks.

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      How to get more out of your life and work by doing less

      October 11, 2018

      Is doing less reeeeeeally hard for you too?

      Do you find yourself saying yes to everyone? filling any white space with stuff?

      We’re generous, giving, women and it’s a beautiful quality. 

      Clients, their work, families, friends…always there for that person, do that thing, one last instagram post, run that favour or cook that meal…

      But like any strength, there’s always a flip-side. 

      Being good at giving can mean we forget about the receiving part. 

      What if we focussed the same amount of energy we spend on giving, on receiving?

      What if we showed ourselves the love first? so we could receive from others with ease instead of feeling awkward or guilty about it?