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Got big goals? ask yourself, how is success going to feel?

November 13, 2018

A thought I’m pondering today – describe the feeling of success?

Some of my best thinking comes in obscure places. Commonly, there will be no relationship between the thought and the context of thinking it. 

This is perhaps the most wonderful thing about inspiration, you have to be open to to receiving it 24/7.

You never know when it might strike. 

As I washed the dishes this evening, inspiration for this post came over me. This small phrase stood out –

The feeling of success.

We can all agree that in reaching the goal, something we’ve dreamed of achieving for months possibly even years – the success is externalised, it can be measured by time, money, possessions or even your social media following. 

Conventionally, this is how we perceive being successful – the attainment or achievement of something. It’s wonderful and exhilarating when we do, but it’s not the full story. 

Some might argue, success is entirely subjective – what you believe is successful may not be my measure of success, but that’s another post for another day. I’m simply talking about the common view of society.  

Rewind five years ago, I had an inkling that something wasn’t right with the career path I was on.

At the same time, I happened to be very attracted to the work of Danielle La Porte. She created a simple yet very innovative approach to setting goals through her book The Desire Map. 

What she observed in months of research and in her own life, was a lack of connection for many between reaching success and feeling really incredible when you do. 

Her work attempts to close the gap. 

Through doing her Desire Map process, at least once a year, I soon learned that success can be both felt inside and seen outside.

I’d go as far as saying that the feeling of success, is more important to get clarity on that the actual goal. 

Why is this so?

If our feelings drive our actions, then surely how we want to feel will become our guidepost.

We take actions towards our goal that we know will have us feel a certain way.

We’ll set goals because we know that external “thing” – the thing we can quantify (money, weight, car, travel, house…), we know deep down that it feels really good to have. 

Our goals have a deeper connection, and a fullness to them.

Knowing this, tell me – how do you want success to feel?   

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    Learning to give up the comparison hangover

    May 12, 2014
    I am intelligent, I am driven, I strive to be the best.

    But with all this, I also exhibit A-Type tendencies.

    And here comes the second BUT.

    Alongside those A-type tendencies is a nasty, dirty little habit I’m trying to kick.

    COMPARISON to others.

    Phew, I said it.

    That was like standing up in an AA meeting admitting that one. I barely drink a drop but while striving forward at full-speed, I still suffer from what Marie Forleo refers to in B-School as a “comparison hangover”.