Be kind to yourself
As women we can be very self-critical and sometimes cruel. As a result, we often have a tendency to withhold love from the one person who deserves it most – ourselves.
It occurred to me recently that I was quite guilty, in fact, I was very guilty of this.. Even more so when I am hormonal and nearing that time of the month (PMS’ing). I look in the mirror and all I see are flaws. My thoughts are far from forgiving and all my demons bubble up to the surface. These are some thoughts I had during a very hormonal week – I hate my face, I don’t think I’m pretty, I’m not sexy, my breasts are saggy, I have veiny skin (which is gross), Look at my bags – I look sooo tired and the list goes on and on. I end up avoiding mirrors and just not wanting to see myself.
Why is it that as ladies we have an almost unwavering need, a knee-jerk reaction if you will, to criticise ourselves every time we see our reflection? While some may disagree, I imagine most women wouldn’t even be conscious that they commonly react to themselves in this way. For me, I have decided I would like to make a conscious effort to break this habit. So I have set myself the goal to re-frame my thoughts whenever I hear the “negative nelly” pipe up in my head.
In order to make this change possible, here are some of tricks I’m planning to use to help me over the coming months:
1. When you look in the mirror pretend you’re a friend – it really does change your perspective. This great advice comes from one of my favourite blogs, Cup of Jo.
2. Force yourself to think of or say at least one nice thing to yourself every time you look in the mirror.
3. Appreciate and celebrate yourself, every part of you, even your considered “flaws”.
4. If all else fails, smile! A smile changes how your entire face looks, and lets face it, if you’re scowling you certainly won’t be looking your fabulous gorgeous self.
So ladies, tell us, what are your tricks for feeling gorgeous?