Be kind to yourself

Roald Dahl Sunbeams Quote

As women we can be very self-critical and sometimes cruel. As a result, we often have a tendency to withhold love from the one person who deserves it most – ourselves.

It occurred to me recently that I was quite guilty, in fact, I was very guilty of this.. Even more so when I am hormonal and nearing that time of the month (PMS’ing). I look in the mirror and all I see are flaws. My thoughts are far from forgiving and all my demons bubble up to the surface. These are some thoughts I had during a very hormonal week – I hate my face, I don’t think I’m pretty, I’m not sexy, my breasts are saggy, I have veiny skin (which is gross), Look at my bags – I look sooo tired and the list goes on and on. I end up avoiding mirrors and just not wanting to see myself.

Why is it that as ladies we have an almost unwavering need, a knee-jerk reaction if you will, to criticise ourselves every time we see our reflection? While some may disagree, I imagine most women wouldn’t even be conscious that they commonly react to themselves in this way. For me, I have decided I would like to make a conscious effort to break this habit. So I have set myself the goal to re-frame my thoughts whenever I hear the “negative nelly” pipe up in my head.

In order to make this change possible, here are some of tricks I’m planning to use to help me over the coming months:

1. When you look in the mirror pretend you’re a friend – it really does change your perspective. This great advice comes from one of my favourite blogs, Cup of Jo.

2. Force yourself to think of or say at least one nice thing to yourself every time you look in the mirror.

3. Appreciate and celebrate yourself, every part of you, even your considered “flaws”.

4. If all else fails, smile! A smile changes how your entire face looks, and lets face it, if you’re scowling you certainly won’t be looking your fabulous gorgeous self.

So ladies, tell us, what are your tricks for feeling gorgeous?



Katherine Bugden

The beautiful Katherine Bugden is a co-founder and contributor to A Conscious Beauty blog.

This English lass is an avid writer, tea drinker, reader and can chat the hind legs off a donkey. She loves to travel and has a serious case of wanderlust, which is providing ample fodder for day-dreams. Love, family, friends and laughter are constant themes in this beauty’s life. When not working, reading or writing, she’s on the beach lapping up the sunshine and letting the ocean wash any worries away.

  • Sybil

    December 4, 2013 at 9:27 am Reply

    Mine is a Louisa Hay trick – she calls it ‘I love you, LuLu’. What she does is – consciously, deliberately, every morning – spends time looking at herself in the mirror talking to her reflection as if she were a child or a beloved pet. Effusively, silly, with baby talk – it feels really odd but it works!

    • a conscious beauty

      a conscious beauty

      December 6, 2013 at 10:47 am Reply

      That is such a great idea Sybil, Louise Hay is one smart woman! It is much more fun and light-hearted that way. When it comes down to it, most of these concepts are encouraging you to not take yourself so seriously.

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